Many baby boomers are divorced, widowed or never
married. With the advent of online
dating sites and social media, single men and women boomers are finding love in
all the right places. When love comes at
our age, it comes with a lifetime of baggage from both partners. Commingling two different personalities is
bound to cause clashes at times, but we all want love and companionship as we
go into our golden years. Relationships are
often based on emotions, and when those fiery emotions wear off after marriage,
conflicts can arise.
Several points help marriages survive, whether
you’ve been married for years or whether you’re newly married. The first one, communication, requires
exchange. You need to listen, as well as
talk, in order to truly communicate. Let
your spouse know what you’re feeling.
Don’t bottle up anger and resentment.
Don’t expect your spouse to complete you. Replace any selfishness and insecurity left
over from previous relationships with gratitude, appreciation and
patience. There’s a degree of sacrifice
inherent in anything worthwhile; marriage is no different.
Treat your spouse well and expect to be treated well
in return. The purpose of marriage is
for companionship and procreation. At
our age procreation is off the table, so commit to being a loving, intimate
companion, facing any obstacles or challenges that arise together, as some
surely will. There may be issues with
blended families, physical or mental deterioration, financial crises, the list
goes on and on. Meet your partner’s
needs with an attitude of love and a willingness to accept and tolerate minor
faults and imperfections. Each partner
is unique and has his own ideas, so it is natural to have different opinions.
Enjoy the golden years!
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